Butch lesbian dating · 18+
Butch, and not up for discussion
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What is butch dating?
Butch lesbian dating means meeting women who are into masculine presentation, or who are butch themselves. Butch is a long-standing lesbian identity rather than a style choice, and it is not a claim about being a man. On Lesbian Flings you say it on your profile and search for women who said what you are looking for.
Four things butch women say they are tired of
All four turn up on mainstream apps within a week.
Being asked if you have always been like this
It is a question dressed as curiosity that reads as a request to justify yourself. On a site where butch is ordinary, it mostly stops being asked.
Being read as the man in the relationship
There is no man in the relationship. Masculine presentation is not a role somebody is filling on behalf of an absent husband.
Being matched only with femmes
Butch on butch is common and always has been. An app that assumes you must want the opposite is doing the sorting for you, badly.
Being treated as unapproachable
The most common reason nobody messages a butch profile is that everyone assumes somebody else already did. Message her.
Butch has a history and it is worth knowing
Butch is not a recent invention or an internet identity. It runs back through working-class lesbian bar culture in the middle of the last century, at a point when presenting that way in public could get you arrested.
That history is why the word carries more weight than masc does, and why plenty of women use masc precisely because they do not want to claim it. Neither choice is more correct. Knowing the difference is the useful part.
The rest of the spectrum
Same community, different words.
Questions about butch dating
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What does butch mean?
Butch describes masculine presentation in a woman, chosen deliberately. It is a long-standing lesbian identity with roots in mid-century bar culture, and it is not a statement about wanting to be a man.
Is butch the same as masc?
Related but not identical. Masc is broader and newer, and describes presentation without claiming the history butch carries. Plenty of women choose masc for exactly that reason.
Do butch women only date femmes?
No, and the assumption is one of the more tiring things about mainstream apps. Butch on butch is common and always has been.
Is butch an insult?
Not when a woman uses it about herself, which is how it is almost always used here. It becomes a problem when somebody else applies it to you without asking.
How do I say I'm butch on my profile?
Put it in your own words in the description and set what you are looking for. Members with VIP can filter on it, so being specific means the right people find you.